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Chapter 17 "Opening the Windows of Heaven"
âTest Me now in this,â says the Lord of hosts,
âif I will not open for you the windows of heaven,
and pour out for you a blessing until it overflows.â
âMalachi 3:10
This is a pretty powerful statement from God. Nowhere else in Scripture does God tell us to test Him, except here in this verse. What is it that God says will cause Him to open the windows of heaven, pouring out His blessing on us until it overflows?
ââBring the whole tithe into the storehouse, so that there may be food in My house, and test Me now in this,â says the Lord of hosts, âif I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour out for you a blessing until it overflowsââ (Mal. 3:10).
Did you see it? Itâs tithing. Tithing will cause God to open the windows of heaven and shower His blessings over your life!
Many Christians shy away from learning as much as they can about this important principle, but please donât miss this! God wants us to be faithful and obedient in all things, and when we neglect or choose to be disobedient in one area of our lives, it spills over into other areas as well.
What exactly is tithing? It is giving back to God ten percent of the first of your increase.
Our society as a whole is ignorant of this principle. Many churches fail their people by neglecting to teach the importance of tithing. Why is it so serious? Because God is angry when we fail to give back to Him what is rightfully His. âThe earth is the Lordâs, and all it contains, the world, and those who dwell in itâ (Ps. 24:1). Tithing is an act of worship.
There are too many Christians who either live in poverty or are in as much debt as the unbeliever. But God wants to make every believer âthe head and not the tail.â He wants you to be âaboveâ and ânot be underneathâ debt or anything else that will rule or control your life (Deut. 28:13). We are told, âOwe nothing to anyone except to love one another . . .â (Rom. 13:8). âThe rich rules over the poor, and the borrower becomes the lenderâs slaveâ (Prov. 22:7).
Most Christians in the United States are blessed with so much, especially if we look at other nations and the level of poverty at which most people of the world live. We spend our earnings on pleasures while our churches, missionaries, and ministries struggle to make ends meet. Why? Because we try to hold onto what is not rightfully ours to keep.
We take but give little. âNow this I say, he who sows sparingly shall also reap sparingly; and he who sows bountifully shall also reap bountifully. Let each one do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giverâ (2 Cor. 9:6).
We ask and wonder why we donât receive. âYou ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasuresâ (James 4:3).
God wanted to bless His people, but He did not because they were unwilling to give into His storehouse. He tells them in Hag. 1:6â7, ââYou have sown much, but harvest little; you eat, but there is not enough to be satisfied; you drink, but there is not enough to become drunk; you put on clothing, but no one is warm enough; and he who earns, earns wages to put into a purse with holes. Thus says the Lord of hosts, âConsider your ways!ââ
ââYou look for much, but behold, it comes to little; when you bring it home, I blow it away. Why?â declares the Lord of hosts, âBecause of My house which lies desolate, while each of you runs to his own houseââ (Hag. 1:9).
Understanding Tithing
It is ironic that so many Christians erroneously believe that they are not able to âaffordâ to tithe and bless God through offerings. The truth is that they are simply caught in a vicious cycle that only obedience and faith can cure. They canât afford to give because they rob God to pay men, thereby robbing themselves of being blessed!
As a matter of fact, it is when we are in deep poverty that God asks us to give. The Christians in Macedonia understood and applied this principle of giving: âOut of the most severe trial, their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosityâ (2 Cor. 8:2). Sounds a bit like many of us, doesnât it?
Why 10%?
The word tithe in the Hebrew is âmaâasrah,â which translates to âa tenth.â So whenever God speaks to us in His Word and says to âtithe,â He is saying to give Him a tenth.
Why should I give my tithe first, before paying my bills?
This is the principle of âfirst fruitsâ of our labor. Deuteronomy 18:4 tells us, âYou shall give him the first fruits of your grain, your new wine, and your oil, and the first shearing of your sheep.â Then, in Exodus 34:24 and 26, God says, âFor I will drive out nations before you and enlarge your borders. . . . You shall bring the very first of the first fruits of your soil into the house of the Lord your God. . . .â
This also is confirmed in the New Testament when Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:33, âBut seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you.â
Where should I tithe?
Malachi 3:10 tells us, ââBring the whole tithe into the storehouse, so that there may be food in My house, and test Me now in this,â says the Lord of hosts, âif I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour out for you a blessing until it overflows.ââ
Your storehouse is where you are spiritually fed. Many Christians make the mistake of giving where they are
not spiritually fed but would rather give where they see there is a needâbut this is foolishness. It is like going to a restaurant, ordering a meal, but when the check comes telling the cashier that you would rather give to the restaurant down the street that is not doing too well!
If you are attending a church where you are being spiritually fed, then you should be tithing at least a tenth of your income to your home church. That means that if you attend church and feel led to sow financially into our ministry (or any other ministry or missions), then this would be an offering âabove and beyondâ your tithe. We donât want you to steal from your church to sow into our ministry âfor this would be unprofitable for youâ (Heb. 15:17).
However, many of our fellowship members who are not attending a church (for a variety of reasons) and are being fed through our ministry tithe by sowing into restoring marriages, since this is where they are being spiritually fed.
Again, as we have encouraged you throughout this bookâseek God. This goes for everything, including your finances. Then be obedient and faithful to Him!
Donât make the mistake of diligently following all the principles for restoring your marriage yet fail to tithe, lest you find your marriage unrestored because you are stealing from God.
Remember, Malachi 3:8â10 tells us, âWill a man rob God? Yet you are robbing Me! But you say, âHow have we robbed Thee?â In tithes and offerings. You are cursed with a curse, for you are robbing Me, the whole nation of you!â
But since I am not under the law and I live by grace, 10% is no longer required, is it?
Godâs grace warrants giving more, not less. When we have experienced His forgiveness, His mercy, His compassion, and His sacrifice of His shed blood whereby we become partakers of His glory, it will increase our willingness to give more, certainly not less.
â. . . Freely you received, freely giveâ (Matt. 10:8).
âHe who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?â (Rom. 8:32).
However, â. . . he who sows bountifully shall also reap bountifully. Let each one do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giverâ (2 Cor. 9:6).
But if we are doubleminded and donât really trust that God will provide for us, âlet this man expect that he will receive nothing from the Lord.â When we hold onto what we have to try to take care of ourselves, we will never see Godâs awesome power on our behalf.
Godâs desire is to pour His power and His blessings into our lives. When we tithe, we are being obedient. But when, out of utter gratitude and worship, we freely give offerings beyond what is commanded, we are truly opening the door for God to pour out His blessings and do His pleasure in our lives.
We know He âis able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in usâ (Eph. 3:20, KJV).
âSeek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto youâ (Matt. 6:33, KJV). Do we take God at His Word or not?
Principles of Stewardship
As we have seen, tithing is an important principle in the Bible. God expects us to tithe back to Him a portion of what He has so generously given to us. Indeed, all that He has given us is still Hisâwe are stewards that He has entrusted to care for the earth and all that is in it. How we handle what He has entrusted to usâour money, our talents, our time and our familyâdemonstrates our obedience to His Word, our trust in His promise to provide, and, most importantly, our faith in Him.
The way you view and handle your finances is basic to your Christian growth, and understanding Godâs principles of stewardship will enable you to mature in your spiritual walk and inherit the blessings God has for your life.
As you have read thus far in this book, God deals with many areas in our life that indirectly affect our marriage. It is not enough to concentrate on marriage principles exclusively, but again God is using this trial in your marriage to transform you more into His image as He draws you out of the worldâs destruction and shows you the pathway to life.
The riches of God are not in order for us to âget richâ in the way the world seeks riches, but instead His blessings are part of our heritage. God wants to prosper us (Jer. 29:11) as long as He knows that we will use our inheritance wisely, without allowing prosperity to bring us to ruin. Giving a car to a child who is too young will most certainly end in tragedy. It is not until a parent sees maturity is he willing to turn over the keys of the car.
God wants us to have a mature attitude toward money, for it has the power to affect our ability to make wise decisions: âTwo things I asked of You, do not refuse me before I die: keep deception and lies far from me, give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with the food that is my portion, that I not be full and deny You and say, âWho is the Lord?â Or that I not be in want and steal, and profane the name of my Godâ (Prov. 30:7â 9).
It is clear, though, that it is Godâs desire to bless His children. Here are more verses that show Godâs heart toward you as one of His:
âIt is the blessing of the Lord that makes rich, and He adds no sorrow to itâ (Prov. 10:22).
âThe reward of humility and the fear of the Lord are riches, honor and lifeâ (Prov. 22:4).
âAnd by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant richesâ (Prov. 24:4).
âA faithful man will abound with blessings, but he who makes haste to be rich will not go unpunishedâ (Prov. 28:20).
These verses maintain that there are conditions to financial blessings (spiritual maturity) and that this is truly a heart issue (an absence of greed).
All of us want Godâs blessings upon our life, but did you know that how you handle your financial blessings has a great deal to do with how you grow in the Lord and to what degree God is able to work in your life?
âNo one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will stand by and be devoted to the one and despise and be against the other. You cannot serve God and mammon (deceitful riches, money, possessions, or whatever is trusted in)â (Matt. 6:24, AMP).
âWhoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches?â (Luke 16:10â11).
To grow in our ability to be used of God, which is spiritual wealth, and gain the greater things (having the power and presence of God in our lives) depends in part on how we handle our finances.
To prove this further, there are roughly 500 references in the Bible to faith and 500 to prayer, but there are over 2,000 verses that refer to our finances! In addition to the spiritual laws that were set in place when God created the universe (see chapter 1), God has also established financial laws, which He has shared with us in His Word. We benefit from following the laws or suffer the consequences if we donât. It doesnât matter if we are ignorant of them or have chosen to reject them; these laws, like gravity, exist and cannot be debated.
Principle #1: We reap what we sow.
One of the most important principles of stewardship is sowing and reaping. To reap a harvest, we must sow seed first. There are many Scriptures that give us insight into of the subject of sowing and reaping. Here a just a few:
âNow this I say, he who sows sparingly shall also reap sparingly; and he who sows bountifully shall also reap bountifullyâ (2 Cor 9:6).
âThose who sow in tears shall reap with joyful shoutingâ (Ps. 126:5).
âDo not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reapâ (Gal. 6:7).
âFor the one who sows to his own flesh shall from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit shall from the Spirit reap eternal lifeâ (Gal. 6:8).
âAnd let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we shall reap if we do not grow wearyâ (Gal. 6:9).
When we sow with the understanding of this principle and with faith in the Lord and His Word, we should expect to reap a harvest in and where we have sown! This is really exciting!
No farmer would take the time or the money to sow seed if he did not expect to reap a harvest. In addition, if he wanted to reap a harvest of corn, he would sow corn. If he wanted to reap wheat, he would sow wheat.
Therefore, if you want to reap kindness, sow kindness. If you want to reap forgiveness, forgive! If you want to reap restoration in your marriage, then sow into restoration by ministering and/or sow financiallyâthen anticipate a harvest, since Godâs principles and His promises are true and He is faithful!!
We can also believe Godâs promise that sowing into His work means we are investing in our eternal future. âDo not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; where your treasure is, there your heart will be alsoâ (Matt. 6:19â21). More importantly, what we do with money here on earth is a true indicator of where our hearts are.
âNow He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will supply and multiply your seed for sowing and increase the harvest of your righteousness; you will be enriched in everything for all liberality, which through us is producing thanksgiving to Godâ (2 Cor. 9:10â11).
In other words, when God gives us a bountiful harvest, it is not so we can keep it selfishly for ourselves but so we can sow even more into the kingdom of heaven.
The very wealthy Christians of today are the channels that keep ministries going, send missionaries to foreign lands, and keep our churches flourishing so that they can reach the lost for the Lord. They do not use their finances for their own pleasures but have found that in sowing into the things of God they have true joy and contentment.
However, we must also remember that poverty and prosperity are relative terms. What we call the âpoverty levelâ in the United States would seem like affluence to those in many other countries.
As Christians, we must find contentment in any and every situation. The apostle Paul reminds us in Philippians 4:12: âI know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need.â
Indeed, there are times when God calls His saints to suffering, martyrdom, or poverty (like the poor widow who gave two coinsâall she owned) in order to glorify Himself. When He calls us to poverty or suffering, though, He gives us the grace to bear it with joy and thanksgivingâwithout grumbling or complaining.
While we canât understand all of Godâs reasons for allowing poverty, we can trust that His ways are higher than our ways. âOut of the most severe trial, their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosity. For I testify that they gave as much as they were able, and even beyond their abilityâ (2 Cor. 2:8). Sometimes those who suffer the greatest need become the most generous! And for someone with a love of money, a loss of riches may be one of the ways God breaks us, draws us to Himself, and teaches us to rely solely on Him.
However, in our country, poverty and debt do not usually draw the interest or attention of your family, friends, and neighbors. If we have been blessed with much, we must witness to others not by self-righteously preaching to them or condemning their lifestyle but by allowing them to âreadâ God in our lives! âYou are our letter, written in our hearts, known and read by all men . . .â (2 Cor. 3:2). We must exhibit the fruits of who our Father is. We must be at peace in the midst of troubles, bless our enemies, freely forgive, and walk in whatever prosperity the Lord allows. Our generosity should glorify Him and may be the very kindness that God uses to draw others to Himself!
â. . . And let them say continually, âThe Lord be magnified, who delights in the prosperity of His servantâ (Ps. 35:27).
Principle #2: God owns everything.
Psalm 24:1 (NIV) says simply, âThe earth is the Lordâs, and everything in it . . .â Everything we have belongs to God.
âYours,  O  Lord,  is  the  greatness  and  the  power  and  the  glory  and  the  majesty  and  the  splendor,  for everything in heaven and earth is Yoursâ (1 Chron. 29:11).
ââThe silver is Mine and the gold is Mine,â declares the Lord Almightyâ (Hag. 2:8).
All we have, whether much or little, is on loan to usâwe are stewards. Again, it is how we handle what has been entrusted to us (as explained in the Luke 16 parable) that will determine whether He blesses us with more or if He takes away what we already have.
Principle #3: God provides everything.
âOtherwise, you may say in your heart, âMy power and the strength of my hand made me this wealth.â But you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth, that He may confirm His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day. It shall come about if you ever forget the Lord your God and go after other gods and serve them and worship them, I testify against you today that you will surely perishâ (Deut. 8:17â19).
âBut who am I and who are my people that we should be able to offer as generously as this? For all things come from You, and from Your hand we have given You. For we are sojourners before You, and tenants, as all our fathers were; our days on the earth are like a shadow, and there is no hope. O Lord our God, all this abundance that we have provided to build You a house for Your holy name, it is from Your hand, and all is Yoursâ (1 Chron. 29:14â16).
âAnd my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesusâ (Phil. 4:19).
Whether you earned it in your job or it was given to you, who was the Source of everything that you have?
God.
Principle #4: God wants the first portion of what He gives you.
Many Christians give to their church and other charitable organizations but are not blessed because they donât understand this very important principle. God is clear throughout the entire Bible that He wants to be first in every area of your life.
If you pay your bills before returning the first back to Him, God is not first in your life and you will have missed the blessing. We learned in chapter 5, âFirst Love,â that God removes from us what we have put ahead of Him.
âHonor the Lord from your wealth, and from the first of all your produce; so your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will overflow with new wineâ (Prov. 3:9). The principle is clear; we must give to God first.
Often when Christians begin to consider tithing, they cannot see how they can possibly tithe since they are barely making ends meet. This is because they are also ignorant to what has been happening in their finances. Haggai 1:9 says that God âblows awayâ what you bring home and He also allows the devourer come and take what was rightfully His.
ââBring the whole tithe into the storehouse, so that there may be food in My house, and test Me now in this,â says the Lord of hosts, âif I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour out for you a blessing until it overflows. Then I will rebuke the devourer for you, so that it may not destroy the fruits of the ground; nor will your vine in the field cast its grapes,â says the Lord of hostsâ (Mal. 3:10â11).
Every month non-tithing Christians are met with âunexpectedâ expenses, things like repairs or other needs they did not foresee. But it is only because they are ignorant of this principle. For if God is first in your lifeâ first in your heart, first in your day, and first in your financesâthen (and only then) will God âopen for you the windows of heaven, pour out for you a blessing until it overflows,â and faithfully ârebuke the devourer for you.â
Those who humble themselves by giving God their tithe and offerings will delight themselves in abundant prosperity! âBut the humble will inherit the land, and will delight themselves in abundant prosperityâ (Ps. 37:11). His Word tells us, âAdversity pursues sinners, but the righteous will be rewarded with prosperityâ (Prov. 13:21).
Principle #5: What you do with the first portion determines what God does with the rest.
When God asked Abraham for His son, he did not withhold him; as a result, God tells him, âfor now I know that you fear God, since you have not withheld your son, your only son, from Me. . . . because you have done this thing and have not withheld your son, your only son, indeed I will greatly bless you . . .â (Gen. 22:12, 17).
God told the army who took Jericho that they were not to take the spoil of the first city, then God would give them the rest. God always wants to see if we put Him first to test our hearts. âThe refining pot is for silver and the furnace for gold, but the Lord tests heartsâ (Prov. 17:3). However, one of the soldiers, Akin, could not resist and took some of the spoil. When they were to take the next city, Ai, in a battle that was much smaller and should have easily been won, they were defeated. (See Joshua 6.)
This principle is not just in your finances, or in your restoration, but in every area of your life. When we fail to give to God first, then we are robbing God of what He has asked for. He wants no other gods before Him: not our money, our spouses, our marriages, or our careers. What you do with the first of everything will determine what God will do with the restâbless it or curse it.
Are you in a financial crisis?
âBut seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to youâ (Matt. 6:33).
Have you sought the Lord about your finances? In Philippians 4:19, the Bible clearly teaches that the Lord is the One who will supply all our needs. However, if we go to others with our needs rather than seeking the Lordâif we fail to âseek Him firstââthen âall these thingsâ will not be âadded untoâ us.
Are you following the principles for financial security in the Lord? The Scriptures teach us that we are to tithe in order to be âfilled with plentyâ and âoverflowâ (Prov. 3:9â10). We are also encouraged to âsowâ if we want to reap (Gal. 6:7, 2 Cor. 9:6). Have you been sowing and faithfully tithing? Take the time to read these passages of Scripture again and again, then pray for how the Lord wants to change the way that you are trusting Him while fulfilling His command to all believers, beginning by giving a portion back to Him.
If you are tithing faithfully and still in a financial crisis, make sure that you are following all of Godâs statutes. There are many references in Scripture to actions that lead to poverty, including not asking (James 4:2), asking with wrong motive (James 4:3), adultery (Prov. 6:26), heavy drinking or gluttonous behavior (Prov. 21:17, Prov. 23:21), laziness (Prov. 10:4, Prov. 14:23, Prov. 28:18â20), not accepting rebuke or correction (Prov. 13:18), making hasty decisions (Prov. 21:5), oppressing the poor (Prov. 22:16), living treacherously with your wife (Mal. 2:14â16) or failing to honor her (1 Pet. 3:7) and, of course, withholding from God what is rightfully His.
While we are giving back to God in tithes and offerings, we also need to be sure we are giving our wives the honor they deserve. âYou husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hinderedâ (1 Pet. 3:7). Has your wife been the one who has tried to live within your means but you were irresponsible with your spending? Have you shamed your wife to others or joked about her spending? Be sure you are pure in heart and faithful to your wife in every way.
When Erin was in financial ruin as a single mother of four young children, she learned the principle of tithing. Even though she lived close to poverty level, she began tithing for the first time in her life (being raised as a Catholic she had never even heard of the principle). Not only did she sow by tithing ten percent of the meager amount of the money she received, but she also sowed into the lives of women who were experiencing tragedy in their lives (telling them about Godâs ability to restore their marriages).
Erinâs obedient heart that learned to tithe to the Lord set the standard in our home when I was gone. God honored her by leading me to tithe soon after I came home without her even telling me!
Men, if you are still struggling with giving, it may help you to know that God owns everything we have, and it is only because of Him that we have been given the âpower to make wealth, that He may confirm His covenantâ with us. (Deut. 8:18). Therefore you need to make sure that you give to Him first to confirm that He is first in your life!
Will you serve God or mammon (money)?
Too many shy away from teaching on giving because of the abuses and because they donât want to be considered âmoney seekers,â but it doesnât eliminate the truth in the message. Search for the truth yourself. Test Him to see if He is faithful to His promise. Give to God first, tithe to your storehouse (where you are spiritually fed), and see if your life changes and you are blessed in all areas of your life.
God is the one who provides for our ministry and for our family. We sow into the lives of those who are brokenhearted and water with ongoing support through our fellowship, but it is God who brings the increase. We look to no one to supply our needs but God alone.
Failing to properly teach such an important principle would be to neglect to feed the sheep and shepherd those who are coming to us for help, support, and direction.
Jesus said to feed His sheep, and God said in Hosea that His people perished for a lack of knowledge (Hos. 4:6). Many who come to us are new Christians or have been attending a church where this principle, and other principles of restoration, are not taught. Our job is to make disciples of the Lord, to give them the tools they need to transform their lives.
For those of you who have never given God His tithe, may God prove to you that you can do more with 90% of your income than the 100% than you used to control. It will take a step of faith, but, just like when you chose to restore your marriage rather than moving on, your life will never be the same.
For those of you who do give (but God is not first), may you rearrange your priorities in every area of your life to show God that He has first place.
God is a God who longs to be gracious to us; He longs to bless us! â. . . And let them say continually, âthe Lord be magnified, who delights in the prosperity of His servantâ (Ps. 35:27).
Let me close with this wonderful promise: âThose who sow in tears shall reap with joyful shoutingâ (Ps. 126:5). Hallelujah!!
Personal commitment: to give. âBased on what I have learned in Scripture, I commit to trusting and blessing the Lord with my finances. I will seek the Lord regarding how and where to tithe. I will sow into restoring marriages through sharing the good news about restoration with those whom God brings into my life and through my giving financially as God leads and faithfully provides for me.â
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