Please leave some encouragement for this brother who filled out an MEQ "Marriage Evaluation Questionnaire"
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| What is your first language or your mother tongue? * |
Slovak
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| How did you find our community? * |
On the search engine.
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| Please tell us which of our books you have read: * |
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| Who did you ask for help in rebuilding your marriage? Mention Everyone You Asked * |
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| What is your current marital status? * |
Separated: I am married but my wife does not live with me.
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| Are what your wife said the main issues or problems she has with you or in your relationship? * |
Mistrust, unable to lean back. I humiliated her when I threw her the money she wanted from me (but she didn't want more, I was like the fifth wheel on the wagon for the last few years), once I shouted at her and slammed the door. But this is just a saver. Our relationship has been cooling for the last 2-3 years
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| Now please tell us about your situation and why you came to us for help: * |
I fought for her all summer - since June. I started working on restoring my relationship with God, but we got into a situation where I questioned her that she doesn't know what she wants. I had the feeling that the relationship was being renewed and everything was going in the right direction. But according to her, nothing has changed
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| Have you dated anyone since you were 'abandoned' or 'abandoned' in your marital status? * |
none
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| Have you been sexually intimate with someone other than your wife since you were married? * |
Not
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| Is your current marriage the result of an adulterous relationship (marriage), meaning that you or your spouse were married when you started together? * |
Not
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| Do you watch pornography? * |
I used to
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| Do you attend church regularly? * |
Yes
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| Do you attend the same church you attended as a couple? * |
well
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| According to your information; does your wife still attend church regularly? * |
Yes
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| Are you a Christian? If so, please tell us about your salvation experience and spiritual journey.
And if you are (or have been) part of a particular faith, please tell us. * |
Roman Catholic
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| I would like to get help, but my wife is not interested. * |
Yes, I want help, but my wife does not.
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| I feel that my situation is hopeless. Please explain: * |
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| After the relationship started to recover, it broke again after about 4 months and I feel like I buried it. I blew up at her and told her and wrote things I regret. Since then, he doesn't talk to me at all and it looks like it's over. I can just call my daughter and take her for the weekend. Even that, actually, almost without words
I'm waiting for the divorce papers to come in... I'm unhappy and kind of desperate. I try to follow the scriptures and God's promises… |
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| Please share with us WHY you want your marriage restored * | |
| I believe in the indissolubility of marriage, despite all the things that have happened, I want to take care of my family and love my wife and daughter. I can see that my daughter needs me and I can already see how it bothers her... and I believe that my wife also takes it very hard
I want God to be first in my life. I want to follow him in everything. I gave him my life, but I probably trust him a little. I really need to seek joy in the Lord and trust that nothing is impossible with God. I want God to be glorified in our marriage |
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| Now we would like to give you the opportunity to write a prayer telling God how you feel. Ask Him for His help and to be real to you, helping you through this journey.
Whatever you pray for, we will pray with you. * |
Almighty God, look upon us and our situation. I give you myself, my wife and my daughter. Heal what needs to be healed, correct what needs to be corrected and save our family, our relationships and what you have created between us. I make myself fully available to You, take control of me completely and change me so that I am the real husband and father that You want me to be. Let Your will be done
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| Aký je tvoj prvý jazyk alebo tvoj materinský jazyk? * |
Slovenčina
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| Ako si našiel naše spoločenstvo? * |
Na vyhľadávači.
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| Prosíme, povedz nám, ktoré z našich kníh si čítal: * |
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| Koho si požiadal o pomoc s obnovou tvojho manželstva? Spomeň Všetkých, Ktorých si Požiadal * |
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| Aký je tvoj súčasný manželský status? * |
Oddelený: Som ženatý, ale moja žena so mnou nežije.
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| To, čo povedala tvoja žena, sú hlavné záležitosti alebo problémy, ktoré má s tebou alebo vo vašom vzťahu? * |
Nedôvera, nevie sa oprieť. Ponížili som ju keď som jej hodil peniaze kt odo mňa chcela (ale nechcela viac, bol som ako piate koleso na voze posledné roky), raz som na ňu zakričal a buchol dverami. Ale toto je len saver. Nas vztah chladol posledne 2-3 roky
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| Teraz nám, prosíme, povedz o tvojej situácii a prečo si prišiel k nám po pomoc: * |
Cele leto som o ňu bojoval - od juna . Začal som pracovať na obnove vzťahu s Bohom ale dostali sme sa do situácie keď som spochybnil ju že nevie čo chce. Mal som posit ze vztah sa obnovuje a vsetko ide spravnym smerom. No podľa nej s nič nezmenilo
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| Randil si s niekym odkedy si v statuse manželstva 'zanechaný' alebo 'opustený'? * |
žiadny
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| Bol si sexuálne intímny s niekým iným ako tvojou ženou, odkedy si bol ženatý? * |
Nie
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| Je tvoje súčasné manželstvo výsledkom cudzoložného vzťahu (manželstva), čo znamená, že ty alebo tvoja manželka ste boli ženatí, keď ste si spolu začali? * |
Nie
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| Sleduješ pornografiu? * |
Zvykol som
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| Navštevujete cirkev pravidelne? * |
Áno
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| Navštevuješ ten istý kostol, ktorý ste navštevovali ako pár? * |
no
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| Podľa tvojich informácií; navštevuje tvoja žena kostol stále pravidelne? * |
Áno
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| Si kresťan? Ak áno, prosíme, povedz nám o tvojej skúsenosti spasenia a duchovnej ceste.
A ak si (alebo si bol) súčasťou nejakého konkrétneho vierovyznania, prosíme, povedz nám to. * |
rímskokatolicke
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| Chcel by som dostať pomoc, ale moja žena nemá záujem. * |
Áno, chcem pomoc, ale moja žena nechce.
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| Cítim, že moja situácia je beznádejná. Prosíme, vysvetli: * |
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| Po tom ako sa vzťah začal obnovovat sa to opäť zlomilo asi po 4 mesiacoch a mám pocit že som to pochoval. Vybuchol som na ňu a aj som jej povedal a napísal veci kt ľutujem. Odvtedy sa so mnou absolútne nerozpráva a vyzerá že je koniec. Môžem si iba tak zavolať s dcérou a zobrať si ju na víkend. Aj to vlastne takmer bez slov
Čakám kedy prídu rozvodové papiere… som z toho nešťastný a tak trochu zúfalý. Snažím sa nasledovať písmo a Bozie prislubenia… |
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| Prosíme, podeľ sa s nami o to, PREČO chceš, aby bolo tvoje manželstvo obnovené * | |
| Verím v nerozlucnost manželstva, napriek všetkým veciam čo sa stali sa chcem starať o rodinu a milovať manželku i dcéru. Vidím že dcéra ma potrebuje a už teraz vidno ako ju to nici… a verím že manželka to tiez znáša veľmi tazko
Chcem aby bol Boh v mojom živote na prvom mieste. Chcem ho nasledovať vo všetkom. Odovzdal som mu život ale asi malo verím. Potrebujem naozaj hľadať radosť v pánovi a dôverovať že Bohu nie je nič nemožné. Chcem aby sa Boh oslávil v našom manzelstve |
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| Teraz by sme ti dali radi príležitosť napísať modlitbu hovoriacu Bohu, ako sa cítiš. Požiadaj Ho o Jeho pomoc a aby bol pre teba skutočným, pomáhajúci ti počas tejto cesty.
O čokoľvek sa modlíš, budeme sa modliť v zhode s tebou. * |
Všemohúci Bože, zhliadni na nás a našu situáciu. Odovzdávam Ti seba, svoju manželku i dcéru. Uzdrav čo treba uzdravit, náprav čo treba napraviť a zachráň našu rodinu, naše vzťahy a to čo si medzi nami vytvoril. Dávam sa Ti plne k dispozícii, uplne sa ma zmocni a zmen ma any som bol ozajstnym manzelom a otcom akeho ma chces mat. Nech as stane Tvoja vola
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Hello Friend. First, if you haven’t found your way there yet, be sure to go to https://encouragingmen.org/ev/ to read some encouragement and a testimony. There’s one in your language https://encouragingmen.org/zachrana-manzelstva/ev/
You may also want to get a book https://encouragingbookstore.com/languages/slovensko/mrym-slovak/ but also be sure to take the course and fill out the journal, which will result in the most change your wife and everyone you know will witness.
https://encouragingmen.org/zachrana-manzelstva/kurz-1/
https://encouragingmen.org/zachrana-manzelstva/kurz-2/
Another way to see huge changes in your life is to post praise https://encouragingmen.org/pr/
God led you here for a reason, the question is, What is the condition of the soil in your heart, Friend?
“Hear then the parable of the sower. When anyone hears the Word of the kingdom, and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what has been sown in his heart. This is the one on whom seed was sown beside the road. And the one on whom seed was sown on the rocky places, this is the man who hears the Word, and immediately receives it with joy; yet he has no firm root in himself, but is only temporary, and when affliction or persecution arises because of the Word, immediately he falls away. And the one on whom seed was sown among the thorns, this is the man who hears the Word, and the worry of the world, and the deceitfulness of riches choke the Word, and it becomes unfruitful. And the one on whom seed was sown on the good soil, this is the man who hears the Word and understands it; who indeed bears fruit, and brings forth, some a hundredfold, some sixty, and some thirty.” Matt. 13:18-23.