Herstel In Mauritius
Kiyan please tell our readers, how your marriage crisis began:
Kiyan vertel asseblief vir ons lesers, hoe jou huweliks krisis begin het:
My wife was very distant with me for about 10 month. We were like two strangers in our house. She didn't talk to me. She pass all her time at her mother's house. We were not intimate. And I was drunk a lot because of this situation.
My vrou was vir omtrent 10 maande baie afsydig met my. Ons was soos twee vreemdelinge in ons huis. Sy het nie met my gepraat nie. Sy het al haar tyd by haar moeder se huis spandeer. Ons was nie intiem nie. En ek was meestal dronk as gevolg van die situasie.
Next, Kiyan, please tell our readers, how did God change you & your situation as you sought Him wholeheartedly?
Volgende, Kiyan, vertel asseblief vir ons lesers, hoe het God jou & jou situasie verander soos wat jy Hom heelhartig nagestreef het?
After coming here I began to pray and fast twice in a week, I began to read the Holy Bible, and I stopped drinking. Thatâs when I began to have faith in my difficult situation knowing He could restore us.
Nadat ek hiernatoe gekom het het ek begin om te bid en twee keer ân week te vas, ek het begin om die Heilige Bybel te lees, en ek het opgehou drink. Dit is toe dat ek begin het om geloof in my moeilike situasie te hĂȘ wetend dat Hy ons kon herstel.
Kiyan can you please tell our readers, what principles, from God's Word (or through our resources), that the Lord taught you during this trial?
Kiyan kan jy asseblief vir ons lesers vertel, watter beginsels, uit God se Wood (of deur ons hulpbronne), het die Here jou gedurende hierdie beproewing geleer?
Most important that I learned right away is that Nothing is impossible for God. Also, that we walk by faith not by sight because we all expect to see some change when He says we wonât because thatâs not faith. Very important to repent of your sins. Not until I repented of all my sins and turned away from them did I find faith. And that the reason He asks us to go through this trial is that God wanted to teach me humility.
Mees belangrik wat ek dadelik geleer het is dat Niks onmoontlik vir God is nie. Ook, ons deur geloof lewe, nie deur sien nie omdat ons almal verwag om een of ander verandering te sien wanneer Hy sĂȘ ons sal nie omdat dit nie geloof is nie. Baie belangrik is om jou sonde te bely. Nie totdat ek al my sondes bely het en weggedraai het van hulle af het ek geloof gevind nie. En die rede wat Hy wou gehad het ek moes deur hierdie beproewing gaan is om my nederighid te leer.
Please tell our readers, Kiyan, what your most difficult times were that God helped you through.
Vertel asseblief vir ons lesers, Kiyan, wat jou mees moeilikste tye was waardeur God jou gehelp het.
When I knew that my wife was in adultery. Then soon after, the other man came to talk to me and did so violently. The worse was because my son witness all these scenes each time it happened.
Toe ek geweet het dat my vrou in owerspel betrokke was. Gou daarna, het die ander man gekom om met my te praat en hy het dit gewelddadig gedoen. Die ergste was dat my seun elke keer wat dit gebeur het dit gesien het.
Kiyan, please help our readers know if you suspected you were close to restoration? Were there any signs?
Kiyan, help asseblief ons lesers om te weet of jy vermoed het dat jy na aan herstel was? Was daar enige tekens?
No i suspected nothing. Again we need to live by faith when we see no change.
Nee ek het niks vermoed nie. Weer ons moet deur geloof leef wanneer ons geen verandering sien nie.
Now Kiyan please tell our readers what was the âturning pointâ of your restoration?
Nou Kiyan vertel asseblief vir ons lesers wat was die âkeerpuntâ van jou herstel?
The turning point for me is when I felt like a great peace came over me in this hopeless situation. Soon after my wife began to be sick, and then one day she sent me an email. In it, she said she didn't know what to do, she felt like a great guilt had overtaken her soul and she couldnât pray anymore. Just like it says in RMIâs materials for men, that if we do what He asks and we make Him first, following all the principles that are designed to change us into the husband we need to be for our wives, then God will create a crisis in our wifeâs life in order for her to come to us.
Die keerpunt vir my was toe ek ân groter vrede gevoel het wat oor my gekom het in hierdie hopelose situasie. Gou daarna het my vrou siek begin word, toe een dag toe stuur sy vir my ân epos. Daarin, het sy gesĂȘ sy weet nie wat om te doen nie, sy het in haar siel baie skuldig gevoel en kon nie meer bid nie. Net soos wat dit in RMI se hulpbronne vir mans sĂȘ, dat as ons doen wat Hy vra en ons Hom eerste plaas, en al die beginsels volg wat ontwerp was om ons te verander in die man wat ons vir ons vrouens moet wees, dan sal God ân krisis in ons vrouens se lewens skep sodat hulle na ons toe kan kom.Â
Kiyan if you would, carefully explain just HOW it happened: Did your wife contact you by phone or just show up at your home?
Kiyan as jy sou, verduidelik net HOE dit gebeur het: Het jou vrou jou per telefoon gekontak of net by jou huis opgedaag?
One early morning my wife showed up at my home, soon after she emailed. We talked a lot and then I felt I needed to tell her to come back home. She quickly said yes, but she also said she was very afraid. So a few more days passed, I was simply patient knowing God had to finish it. Even though she didnât come home then, we continued emailing each other, then even to laugh together, then one Saturday I asked her to stay. That day she accepted and since then, she has been safely in our home and I am able to be the husband she always needed me to be.
Vroeg een oggend, kort na sy die epos gestuur het, het my vrou by my huis opgedaag. Ons het baie gepraat en toe voel ek dat dit nodig was vir my om vir haar te sĂȘ om huis toe te kom. Sy het gou ja gesĂȘ, maar sy het ook gesĂȘ sy was baie bang. So toe het ân paar dae verby gegaan, ek was eenvoudig geduldig wetend dat God dit moet voltooi. Alhoewel sy nie toe huis toe gekom het nie, het ons voort gegaan om vir mekaar eposse te stuur, toe self saam gelag, en een Saterdag het ek haar gevra om te bly. Sy het toe aanvaar en van toe af, is sy veilig in ons huis en is ek in staat om die man te wees wat sy altyd nodig gehad het ek moes wees.
Lastly, Kiyan, based on your own restoration, would you recommend any of our resource in particular that helped you?
Laastens, Kiyan, gebaseer op herstel, sou jy enige van ons hulpbronne spesifiek aanbeveel wat jou gehelp het?
By the Word of Their Testimony and the Be Encouraged eVideos were very helpful in my restoration. I also recommend these below because all these resources for men will help anyone who is in a very hopeless marriage. I know they work to change men and restored their marriages.
Deur die Woord van Hulle Getuienis en die Wees Aangemoedig eVdeos was baie behulpsaam in my herstel. Ek beveel ook hierdie hier onder aan omdat die hulpbronne vir mans sal enigiemand wat in ân baie hopelose huwelik is help. Ek weet hulle werk om mans te verander en hulle huwelike te herstel.
Hoe God Jou Huwelik Sal Herstel
Deur die Woord van Hulle Getuienis
Would you be interested in helping encourage other men?
Sou jy belangstel om ander mans te help?
Ja
What kind of encouragement would you like to leave other men with in conclusion to what you've already shared?
Ter afsluiting watter soort ander aanmoediging sou jy ander mans mee wou los as wat jy alreeds gedeel het?
Be strong the LORD is GREAT, He hears our prayers, HE will show HIS Face to whomever will seek HIM wholeheartedly. And that above all, if you let Him, nothing is impossible to HIM and lastly, we shouldn't be lukewarm Christians but men who know the Lord personally.
Wees sterk die HERE is GROOT, Hy hoor ons gebede, HY sal SY gesig wys aan wie ookal HOM heelhartig nastreef. En dit bo alles, as jy Hom toelaat, is niks is onmoontlik vir HOM nie en laastens, ons behoort nie louwarm Christene te wees nie maar mans wie die Here persoonlik ken. Â
