“He makes me lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside quiet waters.
He restores my soul.”
—Psalm 23: 2-3
Just as in any relationship, it’s not about just talking TO someone and sharing your thoughts and your ideas and your emotions. So, too, in your relationship with the Lord.
Like any good marriage, the man often does all the talking at first. Likewise with your relationship with the Lord, you read His Word, His promises to you, His vision for your future and what He believes about everything. Unfortunately, once the novelty wears off. You no longer consult what His Word says, but instead you begin to do all the talking, making all the decisions, and soon you're back to the old you—no longer partnered with your Best Friend.
To keep your love alive and remain His, you need to stop and listen and ask Him about things—just like you used to do. So together you can have a real, not one sided (or lopsided) and successful relationship.
So often, we’re sad and disheartened when we read spiritually mature men who share how they did this or that or felt this or that, but then we see that they never share what the LORD said to them about what they could do as the remedy to end their troubles.
Over and over they stay on their same course of action or are off doing something else they “hope” will help or they sadly suffer carrying their negative emotions with them. When right there, right next to them, there is Someone who has all the answers.
Normally we have to write back and ask, “So, what did the Lord tell you to do?” when it’s proof they are simply not being a good companion but have turned into some independent and on their—neglecting they even have a Relationship with the Lord.
It’s simply foolish to not ask and talk to Him about everything! No, not when you get to the end of yourself or find yourself confused (or confusing others by your nonsense). Go to Him with everything and for everything and you’ll find your paths are straight and joyful because you’re really traveling along this journey with Him!
Let me give you an example. As far back as when I was first restoring my marriage in 1989 and everyone told me they were praying "against" my impending divorce, which I had heard my husband had filed. What was interesting is that “for some reason” I didn’t have the same passion and never felt led to pray against this divorce going through.
Baffled, I simply stopped and ASKED the Lord, “Is the divorce going to go through?” To which He said, “Yes, but you can trust Me.” So I did. Simple!
Then after I asked, and heard His answer, when I went back to my small group the next week and everyone said they were praying "against" my divorce, I said, “Oh, you don’t need to. The Lord said it would go through but to trust Him.”
Thankfully I only one woman came up "against" me. She shouted at me and rebuked me saying, “You have to BELIEVE!! And you have to pray AGAINST IT!!” Clearly, she didn’t care at all about His will and that as Christians we’re often asked to go “through the valley of the shadow of death” in order to come out with a testimony. And I doubt if she ever stopped to listen to Him. Instead, she had her own agenda as some of you still do.
This means that, by the time you’ve completed your Restoration Journey, you should know and have been trained to simply ASK Him about everything. Such as:
Is the divorce going through?
What do you want me to do about ________?
Why am I struggling with ________ feelings?
Have I forgiven (this person) ________ so IF I have, why do I keep thinking about them?
The List is endless!! My list is endless. From the moment I wake up until I go to sleep, and even in the middle of the night if I wake up—I am talking to Him and listening to Him speak to me.
To help prove this, here are my absolute favorite verses on this topic that you need to mark and read until each principle is burned and branded into your soul.
Isaiah 45:11— "Thus says the LORD, the Holy One of Israel, and his Maker:'Ask Me about the things to come ...'"
Isaiah 42:9-10—“Behold, the former things have come to pass, Now I declare new things; Before they spring forth I will proclaim them to you. Sing to the Lord a new song, Sing His praise from the end of the earth!"
Isaiah 30:21—"Your ears will hear a word behind you, 'This is the way, walk in it,” whenever you turn to the right or to the left.'" But you need to be listening.
Isaiah 48:6—“I proclaim to you new things from this time, even hidden things which you have not known."
This means you need to go to Him and ask Him what He thinks, how He feels, what HE wants you to do, together, traveling as One. And it begins with simple things like:
Lord, what do You want me to wear today?
Lord, what route do You want me to take on our way to work today?
Lord, what are Your plans for dinner tonight?
If this isn’t your normal daily routine, then I can tell you honestly that you’re missing out? He will show you things that look great on you—things that you never thought to wear. Also, you might wear something that doesn’t match the weather report, but because He knows what the weather really will be, you’ll be dressed for it!
And if you don’t have enough clothes, He may just have you stop by somewhere to purchase some! I’ve been known to wander into stores thinking to myself “What am I doing here!?!?” Then asking Him (as I always do and what I’ve trained my children to do), “Lord, just show me what You want me to buy. What You’ve picked out for me and why You led me here.” On more than one occasion I had things actually jump or be flung into my cart. I’m being truthful this has happened.
One time I needed something for a new granddaughter, but she had gotten SO much from baby showers there wasn’t anything I thought she needed. I was pushing my cart down an aisle and a hanger got tangled, and it flew a designer bib into my cart. I stood there for a while stunned like “What happened?” But I knew to purchase it and later my daughter-in-law couldn’t stop telling me it was EXACTLY what she’d been looking for but couldn’t find! And what tops it off, almost always what He shows us (or throws in our cart) will be such a great bargain—to confirm it’s from Him.
As we finish the Living Lesson, meditate on these key promises of God:
Isaiah 55:8-9—“‘For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,’ declares the LORD. ‘For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.’”
Proverbs 3:4-6—“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
Isaiah 64:4—"For from days of old they have not heard or perceived by ear, Nor has the eye seen a God besides You, Who acts in behalf of the one who waits for Him."
So going back to your relationship with the Lord, what would happen if you had a person who hung around with you but they never stopped to LISTEN or ASK how you felt or what you knew? How would you feel? Rejected maybe. Well, He feels the same way.
If you never stopped to LISTEN or ASK how He feels or what He knows (even though He knows the answers to everything!!) what kind of or what sort of a relationship would you say you have? Doesn’t this sound like the same marriage relationship you hope to restore?
Let me also explain that very often the Lord doesn’t give me the answers, but simply tells me, “Trust Me” and that is more than enough for me to let go and simply know He’s got it under control. It’s so freeing. When I first wrote A Wise Woman and later A Wise Man it taught me how to be the wife of an earthly husband—what I should have been taught before I married. Yet it wasn’t until I applied those same principles without reservation to my relationship with my Heavenly Husband when I found my life really changing and when I felt so free and cherished by Him.
Even though today’s lesson was longer than usual, STOP now (or make a date later) to selah what you’ve learned, in other words, meditate on everything. AND be sure that you just don’t think about what you’ve learned, but you set up a date with your Father to be alone with Him and ASK Him to share with you how this message applies to you and anything else you can ASK Him. Then sit quietly and listen 😉